My wife refuses to buy Christmas gifts for my family members.?

I am not a shopper and never know what to buy people. But my wife says that she will not buy a single gift for any member of my family this year because they have basically treated her terrible all year. If she paints a wall yellow, someone in my family says it would look better green, when she planted flowers in the spring, the complained about her choice of flowers. When my wife got a dog, they complained because it was from the pound %26amp; not a purebred. My wife looked at my sister one day and said %26quot;screw you%26quot; and she went home (leaving me stranded at my sister%26#039;s house to find another way home). I understand my wife%26#039;s feelings but want her to put her anger aside for Christmas. She says no way, when they can be nice to her, she%26#039;ll buy gifts but not until. Is she being fair?

My wife refuses to buy Christmas gifts for my family members.?
yes, if my mans family treated me horrible it would be a cold day in h*** before I spent a dime on them. If you wanna buy them gifts go ahead but put yourself in her shoes. Would you want to be nice to someone who has treated you the way they have treated her
Reply:Fair? I would say your family hasn%26#039;t been fair to her at all.....


accord. to your story, they have treated her like crap. And she has every right to feel the way she does....until you go to your family and defend her and tell them you expect them to treat her with respect as your wife, she doesn%26#039;t owe them the time of day, really. And as far as going shopping for them...Nada, wouldn%26#039;t happen if it was me, you can bet on it.


I hope they (your family) finds a way to mend their rude behaviour. Otherwise, you will be attending family functions either alone or with a wife that has no intention on taking any crap..... and good for her.
Reply:Don%26#039;t get you wife anything, for Christmas, until she stops whining.
Reply:I agree whole heartedly with your wife.......and if you were a good husband you would be sticking up for her!
Reply:Yes, she is. Why on earth would she want to buy gifts for someone who treats her like that? I wouldn%26#039;t. If you want to buy gifts for people who treat your wife like that, go for it ... but, don%26#039;t%26#039; expect your wife to welcome them with open arms Christmas day.
Reply:Guess you need to learn to shop...She doesn%26#039;t have to buy anyone anything...
Reply:She married YOU not the entire clan okay? If she refuses to give them anything this year for all those reasons, I don%26#039;t understand why you allow your family to treat your wife so badly! If I were her, I%26#039;d stop talking to any of them for good! And since you side with your family, wow! No wonder she%26#039;s pissed.
Reply:There%26#039;s only one way out of this - buy presents for them yourself and sign all the cards with just your name. Heck, a bottle of wine and a box of chocolates will do for the adults, and a book token for any of the kids they have.





I get where you%26#039;re coming from about the %26quot;spirit of Christmas%26quot; - but, unless these things are resolved beforehand, it%26#039;s hypocritical for your wife to buy gifts.





By the way - where are you in all of this? Aren%26#039;t you taking a stand and telling your relatives that you won%26#039;t have your wife treated like this? Seems they know they can get away with putting her down - and, where I come from, that%26#039;s called bullying.





BTW, I%26#039;ve just read your additional details, and your wife is completely right. Your family seem to have no respect for others, and I%26#039;m not surprised she wants little to do with them. Honestly, there are some boundaries which are being completely trampled on here. These incidents are out of order.
Reply:You please go ahead buy some gifts for your family, hand over the same in the name of your wife. Also buy some gifts for your wife, handover the same in the name of your sister. But please ensure that what you buy for your sister is not a dog.
Reply:ok, your wife is completely in the right here. and you are trying to find a way to convince her shes wrong. you need to step up to the plate, and put your wife first, where she belongs. if you want YOUR family to have gifts, then get off your butt and go buy them! i am in the same boat as her, and i have refused to have anything to do with a single one of the self righteous bastards in his family! take up for her, not them!
Reply:I concur with Clo!


Unreal......I love Christmas as well and laid the same law down with my husband last year....and his family has now figured a few things out. Good for her! Think how you would feel if her family treated you this way!


Peace.
Reply:The gift of giving comes from the heart. If the wife feels the families unfairness and not wanting to buy gifts for the family this year, ask her, how%26#039;s she gonna feel when everyone in the family have brought gifts for her, and they%26#039;ve gonna receive none? Gonna feel pretty shelfish! Tell the wife to go shopping and show her worth of being a better person then everyone makes her out to be, the family are just testing her.


Ask the family to support her more, than to be judged and critisied. Maybe they%26#039;ll really get to appreciate her as you do!


Hope you both enjoy your xmas!
Reply:I think you need to back up a second here. IT%26#039;S your family. Stick up for the woman you love, Stop letting your family walk on her like a doormat. OMG, I have seen this in my everyday life. I have a cousin who is married to man, whos family treats her the same way and he does nothing!I think fairness went out the door a long time ago. If you love her and want to get her something for Christmas. Be the man she fell in love with and take up for her. If you stop letting them treat her like a dog, they will back off and maybe then you will see a happier, more loving woman who would want to be around your family. Good luck!
Reply:Don%26#039;t force her to buy anything or else things are gonna get really ugly for you guys. Relationships get really complicated when family sticks their nose in everything. No offense, but your family sounds really picky maybe you need to tell them that it hurt her feelings and side with your wife. But your wife also seems stubborn and gets angry really easily over not-so-big issues. I feel sorry for ya buddy :)
Reply:your wife is just still afraid of rejection.the gifts that she may buy may again be criticized.for once,be the one to buy your family members the gifts this christmas and put your both names on the card.then casually tell your family members,%26quot;my wife chose these%26quot; if they say something nice then be quiet.if they say otherwise,then eventually tell them you%26#039;re the one who bought those.talk to your family members also,maybe they%26#039;re too hard on your wife. =)
Reply:I want to tell your wife that %26quot;she is doing the right thing%26quot; !!!!


I want to tell you, to put on an %26quot;apron%26quot;, start cooking and buying the presents for your %26quot;selfish%26quot; family !!!!



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