Girls, help me please? Should I buy my girlfriend more flowers?

I have been seeing my girlfiend since last August. In the last two weeks, things have really gone up to the next level. We are officially in love! Since Christmas time, I have been giving gifts a lot. It just seems that many gift giving occasions presented themselves, Christmas, New Years, the flu, Washington%26#039;s Birthday, Lincolns Birthday, King%26#039;s Birthday, Valentine%26#039;s Day, a cold, Easter, the flu again, another cold, Mother%26#039;s Day, her Birthday.





I sent flowers, plants, baskets, stuffed bunnies, a couple of massages (from a pro), books, cd%26#039;s, videos, etc.





She is telling me to not spend any more money on her. I cited all those gift giving occasions that came all in a row %26amp; pointed out to her that there are no more gift giving occasions until Christmas now.





The problem is this; I am away on business A LOT %26amp; I miss her %26amp; think of her %26amp; I want to send little tokens of my esteem. I have no problem spending money on her. But I don%26#039;t want her to be concerned over my $. Help me?

Girls, help me please? Should I buy my girlfriend more flowers?
Great Man, hun. She will love it and you don%26#039;t worry about it. But just let her know that as you really want to show your love and care for her while you are in distance, you sent it. Just that. She will love it.


Hey, A Lovely Postcard will cheer her up. Buying postcard won%26#039;t mean Spending much. Ok.
Reply:well just buy her sweet but cheap gifts and she will enjoy that and maybe take her on a buisness trip on a vacation or something Report It

Reply:90% of time when girls say dont spend money on me or i dont want anything, they dont mean it. secretly we love it and it makes us really happy but we want to be good girlfriends so we say we dont want stuff espeacially if we really dont need it. but yes gifts are good and you should keep getting her things maybe just simple things like go out and pick the flowers your self or just a note and a drawing. maybe even a 25 cent ring, quit spending money on her and see what she thinks about you thinking of her and get her things of thought instead of price.
Reply:instead of sending flowers, gifts and all that other %26quot;stuff%26quot;. try sending her a bouquet of balloons or cards that say what you feel, they%26#039;re inexpensive and can be given or sent. if she has a fax number, send her a fax OR TWO a week, telling her how you feel about her and around her and with her AND without her......
Reply:Buy stuff thats cheap, or get her something thats really expensive so you won%26#039;t have to buy her stuff anymore until christmas.
Reply:That is really nice of you to do all that for her.


You may send her flowers to tell her you miss her, but all this gift giving has got to stop! You%26#039;ll be broke before you know it, and girls like to be surprised with things like that. You don%26#039;t want her thinking, %26quot;oh great, more presents.%26quot; So, only do it every once and a while. Things like missing her on business trips, that is appropriate. But when she is sick, maybe making her chicken noodle soup would be better.


She%26#039;ll appreciate it more if you don%26#039;t give her things so much. You must really care about her, she%26#039;s a lucky gal!
Reply:Although I wouldn%26#039;t mind receiving those gifts it kind of seems like your giving her a lot. There%26#039;s really no need to give someone a Washington%26#039;s birthday present. Maybe you could make her something instead of buying her something. Such as sending her a nice note about how much you love her, a poem, a scrapbook that you%26#039;ve created things like that.
Reply:I think that you just need to let her know that when it comes to finances you are okay. She probally feels a little awkward that you are spending so much on her so fast. But you just have to let her know its out of love and the kindness of your heart! It%26#039;s very sweet of you but be careful not to smother her either.
Reply:get her more stuff and go deep into your love. take off from vac. she ll be really happy.
Reply:first of all my god u aint got to get her a gift for little special thing that comes along...just the big occasions..she probably said stop gettin her gifts cause she was tired of gettin gifts almost every second of her life..i kno i would be if my bf did that..it would annoy the hell out of me..she doesnt need all those gifts all she wants is you not all those presents..just give her a call and talk all night long i bet she would love that
Reply:the flu, Washington%26#039;s Birthday, Lincolns Birthday, King%26#039;s Birthday, a cold, arent gift giving things so if you want to give a gift think twice lol


make her chiken soup when shes sick itll make her feel good and help her get heathier!
Reply:Money doesn%26#039;t always show love. Maybe your girlfriend is right. If I was her I would probably feel uncomfortable also. (ya know recieving all those extavegant gifts and things) It is really sweet though! It is the thought that counts and if u are away a lot then call her and tell her how much you love her! Send cards and letters! Not everything has to cost 100000000 dollars! lol. Good luck and best wishes to you both!
Reply:Send her a love letter and pick her some flowers, don%26#039;t buy them.
Reply:take some time away from your business and take her on a picnic in the park =/
Reply:Send e/m telling how much you love her and what you would do if you were with him right now. Those don%26#039;t cost a thing and if you choose the right words she will be putty in yours hands.
Reply:Um, did you say Lincoln%26#039;s Bday and Washington%26#039;s too? Jeez, buddy, time to pull the reins on the wallet..... If you buy too much stuff, then it takes away from it being special... She soon won%26#039;t appreciate it, because it happens ALL the time... plus, it might be overwhelming for her.....It sounds like since you can%26#039;t be around physically to smother, you do it in a material way....


Just leave the gift giving to the normal holidays, and maybe once in a while, when no reason calls for it, buy her some flowers,,,


It sounds to me like you are trying to overcompensate in gifts for something else that you lack? I don%26#039;t know.... Good luck with this
Reply:while that%26#039;s sweet to want to do all these nice things for her, you cannot substitute your lack of presence (because you need to travel) with gifts. instead of buying things, do something a little more creative. if she loves flowers, get some stationary with flowers and write little sweet notes to her. you can leave them around her home, like in drawers, kitchen cabinets, her coat-pockets, so that she gets a little surprise everytime she finds these little notes.
Reply:Perfect solution! If she doesn%26#039;t want you spending money on her but you still want to get her gifts then you have to give her small romantic things that don%26#039;t cost much but involve thought. For example you could get a tiny box and put a single rolo in it with a cute message like %26quot;You are more precious to me than the LAST rolo!%26quot;, or you could draw her a little doodle of the two of you and put a frame of black card around it. If you are any good at writing, write her a poem, if not then get a funny or sexy card and simply write %26quot;im thinking of you...%26quot;





There are loadsa ways of saying i love you without spending cash. believe me, she%26#039;ll love it. Xx
Reply:send her heart felt cards, letters or poems. they cost less, and she may appreciate them more.
Reply:Maybe do things for herevery now and then. Cook her a meal. Pack a picnic. There%26#039;s a chance that she doesn;t feel ok with what she might perceive as lavish gifts.
Reply:okay...first off u do NOT need to send her all that stuff. becasue all she needs is your love...remember nothing like flowers will ever replace you and your love toward her. second of all. why don%26#039;t you stop sending her that stuff and instead send her a small and sweet letter to her on the MAJOR holidays??? and also sending her only one flower a holiday may also be very sweet....also another idea...why don%26#039;t you send her a fake flower in a boquet of real flowers and say that when all these flowers die, then your love also will be gone...;however since there is a fake flower that means that your love will never be gone!!! it%26#039;s sweet and it%26#039;s also veryyyy cheap
Reply:it might make her feel wierd to be getting all these gifts from you. maybe you should wait a while and then give her some flowers.
Reply:sorry but that stuff gets really old.





just call regularly to say you love her but stop sending her stuff





dont do it for a while and then do it again, it%26#039;ll be more special.
Reply:i dont think you should buy her anything else. she clearly doesnt need commercial items to be happy ina relationship with you. maybe write her a letter if you are away on buisness alot. she will like that. it is a token of your esteem but it does not cost money. she will treasure it im sure.
Reply:small personal things are always the best


intead of a huge bunch of flowers what if you handwrite a note to her??





and ocasionally someting small?
Reply:No matter WHAT she says, keep sending her flowers! She will miss it if you don%26#039;t! Trust me, as a woman who never gets flowers from her (about-to-be-dumped) boyfriend, it is ALWAYS a great pleasure to receive flowers, etc. from people who love you!
Reply:Girls object to gifts for several main reasons: one, they do not want to feel obligated to you sexually because you are spending so much and giving so much; 2, they do not want you to feel they owe you something, like further commitment or deeper relationship, because of your gifts.


I don%26#039;t know if the two of you have had sex, you don%26#039;t say that. I don%26#039;t know how old you both are either. But I would say, generally, lay off the expensive gifts. Pick her some wildlfowers when you%26#039;re thinking of her, so you%26#039;re not spending a lot of money. She already knows you%26#039;re not a cheapskate....you have proven that already, perhaps over-proven it!
Reply:Too many gifts is WAY overbearing for some people. It might seem to her like you are getting serious too fast, and maybe she is scared of that. Also, it makes you look a little OCD and probably a bit posessive. BACK OFF. For one, after a few more months of this you will be out of things to buy her! Special occasions will lose their touch. Theres nothing special about a gift on her birthday or your anniversary if you are giving her stuff day in and day out. It probably doesnt have as much to do with your money as with her not wanting all that stuff to clutter up.


It is very sweet that you think so highly of her and want to show her that. But do it in a different way. Write her a poem. Leave little notes where she can find them, or send a sweet e-card. Make things for her, or find simple things in nature or on your travels that remind you of your relationship together. Do things for her. Giving her a foot massage will have an even better effect than flowers will. Money isnt everything. And sometimes, money can ruin things.


Good luck in your relationship, you sound like a wonderful person and she is lucky to have you.





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Also, heres an idea. Every time you want to buy her something, take the ammout of money that the object costs and put it in a special savings account. If you are wanting to buy her as much as you say, you will save a lot of money this way! Then, when your one year anniversary, or Christmas comes around, take a vacation with the money you have saved! That will definatley make her feel special :D



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